Why Falling in Love is Not Real Love

Written by Millionaire’s Digest Staff Member: Nina Medina

Founder & Owner of: The Happy Life 101

Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Author, Successful Living Writer

If I were to be asked the best thing that could happen to a person, my answer would be to feel loved. I bet many of us have enjoyed the experience of falling in love. But what if I tell you falling in love is not real love ?

Before I tell you why. Let us see what Falling In Love is…

  • Falling in love comes naturally.

You see the other person, you get attracted- you heart beats fast, you can think of nothing else but him or her. You’ve got butterflies on your stomach. You’re on cloud-nine whenever you’re together. You don’t decide when and to whom. You just feel it. Sometimes we even fall in love to the person we least expect to fall in love with. Moreover, you also cannot force your self to fall in love. No matter how much you want, you cannot just make it happen.

  • Falling in love is effortless.

Whatever we do when we fall in love is not difficult to do. Sometimes, we spend money on dates, but it’s okay as long as we’re having dinner with our beloved. We fly to the other side of the world, but it’s okay as long as we could be with our partner even if it’s only for a few hours. You may skip basketball games with your peers because you have to go with her on a tree planting activity. OR you will pass on salon day with your best friend because you will watch him play baseball. ALL these things will be effortless. It doesn’t require much will-power.

  • Falling in love is finding your perfect match, and feeling in love forever.

You finally meet the perfect guy or girl who completes you. He/she is everything you’re looking for in a partner. You just know the he/she is THE ONE for you. You will never look at another person again.

Falling in love is an experience of temporary emotional high. It will not last long enough to sustain a happy relationship.

LOVE will. So, if falling in love is not real love. What is Real LOVE?

As a matter of fact, Real Love requires what is not present in falling in love.

  • Real Love requires Decision.

Sometimes, we hate the person we love but does it mean we stop loving them? No. You still make coffee for your husband in the morning even if you’re mad at him for not mowing the lawn. You still drive your wife to work even if you’re pissed because she forgot to pay the electric bill. Love is a Choice.

  • Real Love requires Effort.

Sometimes, we don’t want to do things but because we love, we exert effort and still do them.

A tired and sleepy mom would still wake up in the middle to the night to feed their baby. A father who worked overnight will still wake up very early in the morning to drive the children in school. You don’t know how to cook but your spouse loves home-cooked meal so you learn the art of cooking and be the best food engineer! That is love.

  • Real Love requires Commitment.

The person you love may hurt you, annoy you, make you angry, make you jealous, belittle you, or disrespect you…but if you’re committed, you will always remind your self to love them in spite and despite of. Does it mean you have to just take in and tolerate the negatives? Nope… there is a thing called Tough Love!

In addition, there will always be a time when you will find another person who is better than your spouse or partner in one or more criteria. Again, we have to remind ourselves to be committed & choose to stay in our relationships.

LOVE works with Hard Work in order to survive obstacles. Loving is simple BUT it is not always easy. Nonetheless, the reward is always worth 10 times more the effort! 🙂

Article Credits: Nina Medina

Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Author

Originally posted on TheHappyLife101

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  1. Nina Medina
    Jerry Peri 1 year ago

    Reblogged this on Jerri Perri.

    • Nina Medina Author
      Nina 1 year ago

      Thank you for sharing my post

  2. Nina Medina
    dudimadge 1 year ago

    I give an I to this opinion. Most of the time the I’s have it.

    • Nina Medina Author
      Nina 1 year ago

      I’m not really sure what the measure is for the “I” but I do hope it’s a good one. 🙂

      • Nina Medina
        dudimadge 1 year ago

        In Kenya if members of parliament want to pass a bill they are asked to support their motion with the statement ‘I’

      • Nina Medina Author
        Nina 1 year ago

        Oh I think I get what you mean… seems like it’s the same a “Aye” which is to agree or say yes. 🙂

  3. Nina Medina
    Thoughts and Views 10 months ago

    Great post. Love is being there in good and bad times. It’s about paying attention to details in a marriage. One of the most important thing is, Respect for each other. My wife and I been married since December 27, 2014. BTW she saved my life when I landed in the hospital. We work together, we do everything together. Sharing 50/50 responsibility of all of our daily routines. We love each other deeply.

    • Nina Medina
      colourfullifenotes 8 months ago

      Completely agree with you and wish you all the best to you and your wife! 🙂

  4. Nina Medina
    mybicolblog 10 months ago

    I agree, real love is a decision to love no matter how hard things get. Real love is something that we have to work on in order for it to work out, and knowing that giving up is never an option. Now, that’s real.

  5. Nina Medina
    Yeka 10 months ago

    I really wish I can fall in love
    I’ve been in a couple of relationships but have never truly been in love…usually when I say ” I love you” what I actually mean is “I like you and I think we are compatible”.. Funny right?
    I hope for the day I’d meet that special one ,then I can say ” i love you ” for what it truly is..
    Awesome post Nina you’ve got my follow

  6. Nina Medina
    Prasenjeet Gautam 10 months ago

    Rising in Love is real love.

    • Nina Medina Author
      Nina 9 months ago

      Very true! 😊

  7. Nina Medina
    abenasmiling 9 months ago

    Woow.I needed this.

    • Nina Medina Author
      Nina 9 months ago

      Thank you! I’m glad you find my post helpful. ☺

  8. Nina Medina 9 months ago

    I know this to be a fact. After 30 years of marriage, I have grown more in love with my husband as the years have gone by, through the good and the bad. Our hardest struggles, have only drawn us the closer. My love is so different (deeper) than what it was the day I married.

    • Nina Medina Author
      Nina 9 months ago

      You are right, struggles and challenges are supposed to draw us closer and not keep us apart if spouses work as a team.
      Thank you for sharing your insight! 30 years of marriage is definitely something. 😊 I wish you and your spouse more happy years of togetherness. May God bless you and your family!

      • Nina Medina 9 months ago

        Thank you so much!😊

      • Nina Medina Author
        Nina 9 months ago

        You’re welcome! I hope you enjoy the rest of the week! ☺

  9. Nina Medina
    thegirlnextdoor 8 months ago

    The title 🙅

  10. Nina Medina
    thegirlnextdoor 8 months ago

    Wonderful 🎶

  11. Nina Medina
    yourhappyfilledlife 8 months ago

    Great post. It took me a little longer than a minute to read it lol, but I really enjoyed every minute.

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  13. Nina Medina
    agirlwhowrites 7 months ago

    Precisely my thoughts on love. All great things in life require a lot of effort, and love is definitely worth the effort. Not just the romantic sort, but every relationship we’re part of.

    • Nina Medina Author
      Nina 7 months ago

      You’ve said it perfectly! 😊 Thank you for taking the time to read my post.

  14. Nina Medina
    depatridge 7 months ago

    Reblogged this on Matthews' Blog.

    • Nina Medina Author
      Nina 7 months ago

      Thank you for the reblog!

  15. Nina Medina
    Bhavya Pal 7 months ago

    I agree with the post but falling in love with the wrong person or someone who doesn’t feel the same way can be so bad. One sided love destroys the mental balance. But as always, there’s two sides to a same coin. Lucky are those people who find true love.

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