Eye Contact


The ability to make eye contact with someone as they speak is the most powerful tool we can have.  The ability not to break our gaze and give someone our complete attention is a true show of respect.  Yet, believe it or not, looking others in the eye can be a struggle for some.

Have you had an experience while talking with someone and they never look you in the eye? Or they meet your gaze a couple of times and then glance away appearing disinterested in what you are saying. It may be they’re not disinterested but shy or nervous.

That steady gaze is a sign we are paying attention.  Can you imagine how the receiver must feel when our eyes drift off in another direction, whether casing the room or checking our phone?!  I personally feel a total disconnect from that person, don’t you?

Increased eye contact makes us more appealing and approachable.  It improves interaction, as it creates a bond between ourselves and our receiver(s).   Our thoughts and emotions appear to be more honest and sincere if we look directly into someone’s eyes while communicating.

Besides, those making steady eye contact seem more powerful and more dominant; and emotionally stable, as well.

“No one can lie, no one can hide anything, when he looks directly into someone’s eyes.” – Paul Coelho

To become connected and in-sync, show attention and respect; display honesty and sincerity; share thoughts and emotions. Eye contact is the most powerful form of nonverbal communicating.

The quality of face to face interaction is number one in networking with others; interviewing, and most important making a speech.

How are you going to face your enemies if you can’t look them in the eye!

Eye to eye, I’m not shy

Eye to eye, I’m no spy

Eye to eye, I’m your guy

Eye to eye, I’ve nothing to hide

 Eye to eye, I can’t tell a lie

 Written by Millionaire’s Digest Staff Member and Author: Franci Hoffman

Founder & Owner of BrewNSpew and ThusNSuch

Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Author, Successful Living Writer

Article Credits: Franci Hoffman

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  1. Hannah Kubiak 3 years ago

    It’s true. Eye contact shows you’re listening.

  2. thehomemakerslife 3 years ago

    So true! Thanks for this! ?

  3. Joan E Wilder Inc. 3 years ago

    You are right – it shows respect and you can’t lie to someone you respect. Thanks for sharing!

  4. OaktownVibes 3 years ago

    This was a really good read and very well written. In the work place you notice this a lot, sadly I have noticed those who look away often either get taken advantage of or they’re written off as being weak. For many it may be a skill that needs to be practiced just like looking away is a habit that they established through repetition . This was great. Peace and love to you.

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  6. FelixJuel 2 years ago

    but unfortunately… eye to eye is in short supply!

  7. Wow this is a great post Franci… Eye opening. Now I see the benefit of this powerful tool we fail to use to our advantage. Most people are shy and some have a reverse definition to respect. They have this up bring that stirring into an elders eye is disrepect esp in Africa. But i am glad you shared this. Thank you. http://www.shunnom.wordpress.com

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      -Eugenia 2 years ago

      Thank you for your comment. Apologies for the late response but I just found this and other responses. Now I am smiling.

  8. Boss in the middle 2 years ago

    This is becoming more of an issue now than ever before. With the introduction of technology that allows us to communicate without having to look at other people, we are losing practice. We begin to prefer operating in silos as opposed to community. As much as we like writing and getting our communication and feedback “on demand” it’s good to close down the electronic device every once in a while and look up. bossinthemiddle.com

  9. youlivefully 2 years ago

    Cheers! Very well said..

  10. Miss Dino 2 years ago

    I listen to people, but my eyes always catch things in the background that distract my eyes, but it doesn’t distract me: I’ll still be listening to the person talking to me, but making eye contact can be hard because I always get distracted so easily.

  11. trendsandrelations 2 years ago

    Such an important reminder- and love the rhyme at the end!

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    -Eugenia 2 years ago

    Thank you for the pingback

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  16. manishasareen 2 years ago

    Thank you for sharing this.

    This is such an essential topic in this day and age. Communication is key, and it is very much defined by eye contact because not only is that a sign of attentiveness, but it also acknowledges the other person.

    Very interesting post! I look forward to reading more posts from you!

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  18. ensemblepourtoujours 2 years ago

    Wow. It’s so apt. I myself have been through this.. not because i was hiding something..but yes i was shy and nervous.

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  20. Isaac T.Wise 2 years ago

    I realize that making eye contact to others is quite hard for a shy person like me.What tips that I can practice make effective eye contact?

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      -Eugenia 2 years ago

      I focus on the person’s eyes, while we are in a discussion. I notice the color of their eyes, which usually helps me maintain my focus.

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  22. malisehoney 2 years ago

    Great post! Would love some feedback on my newest content piece ‘look at me now’ ? https://malisehoney.wordpress.com/2017/05/04/look-at-me-now/

  23. pritamonlineblog 2 years ago

    Reblogged this on Youth career guide.

  24. williwash 2 years ago

    Reblogged this on WilliWash.

  25. thegirlnextdoor 2 years ago

    An eye for an eye ?

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  29. GANSU 2 years ago

    nice article

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