Written by Millionaire’s Digest Staff Member: Aui V.
Founder & Owner of: Aui’s Den
Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Editor and Author of The Booze Stole My Son: Don’t Let It Steal Yours
We hardly talk about things at home growing up in my childhood. I don’t remember any conversation except for some daily chores that needs to be done every now and then. I was probably looking for a way to express myself when I bump into an old empty notebook and a pen. I write about the infatuation I had on a male classmate at the age of 9. Those were the thing I cannot tell my mom since I came from a traditional, old fashioned family and besides I was very young then to talk about those things. I write them anyway hoping my mom would never knew. I keep it away from her and realize later that there’s no place at home where mom would never see.
My diary was my best friend whom I can tell everything without the fear of being rejected during high school. It helps me deal with my feelings, vent it in the safest way possible and go through the turmoil of an increasing mood swings brought by the ever surging hormones my body started to produce. I write the strongest feelings at any moment and all the disgust I have within finds a way of getting out. That was the time I almost write every day.
I went to college away from home with my journal as my constant companion. Being with new groups of people, and feel like living by your own despite going home every weekend to get allowance was an entirely different world from what I’ve been used to. I never see much about the world during that time but I see so much about myself through my journal. I write the things I would like to happen in my life including the kind of man I would want to marry. I finish my bachelor’s degree on time writing every bit of difficulties, struggles, heart breaks and joys with my diary.
A few months after getting married to the exact kind of man I have written, I have no one to turn to but my journal. I realized that my partner can never be available to me 24 hours a day anytime I want. I never knew then that I needed someone or something where I can express everything that’s going on anytime I wish. There were so many confusions, frustrations and expectations that I had to voice out and didn’t know how. My journal came in rescue. It was like a buffer. I don’t remember so many confrontations and shouting with my husband because when situations were difficult, I will usually get my pen and write. Somehow it helps clear my mind and when things cool down that’s when we will talk. So far we will be 24 years together this coming July. Thanks to my journal, always available when the going gets rough.
Three years ago, I lost my son to drunk driving. I survive every parent’s worst nightmares by writing. I write to my son everyday on my journal that eventually leads me to publishing my first book where I learn so much about life, parenting, love, death and alcoholism. It made me feel connected to him again. It helps me deal with the pain and made the passing of the days bearable. This is where I feel like I find him again and it gives me hope. It also leads me to doing the thing I enjoy doing so much in my life; writing.
Read Here : The Booze Stole My Son: Don’t Let It Steal Yours
Article Credits: Aui V.
Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Editor
I feel much the same about my own journal, it’s where I turn when I need to release all of the emotion inside of me that I don’t feel I can express to another person. I’m glad that you are able to express yourself through your writing ?
Thank you!
Hey Old Sport! I’m really glad you finally published your first article on here on The Millionaire’s Digest!
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Thank you!
Hi I made my new post today and I still can’t figure out that sticky post you tell!Kindly share it with me! I’ll also post it on my site.
I’ll take care of it for you!
Thank you 🙂
I made my post again! Hope you’ll enjoy it!
That was quite a touching one ! Best wishes 🙂
Thank you!
Wow, thank you for being so open. This was sad but nice to read too.
Thank you!
So moving, you have a way with words. I hope you keep writing.
Thank you. Sure I will and I’m happy to see your blog as well. I’m looking forward to read more of your post.
Such commendable way of expressing all when you actually want to pour out everything! The most amazing thing I’ve read!
Thank you!
This is truly powerful!
Thank you 🙂
Journaling is so helpful!!!
Yes it is!
Great post! I dont necessarily have a journal where i writs what is going on but ill grab a notepad and write a poem or piece of prose or just a sentence about what is inspiring me at that point in time.
That’s great! I always have a deep admiration to those who write poems. Their way with word seems magical to me and I don’t know how they were able to combine words and express it using different forms. Thank you for dropping by and keep writing poems!
Truly amazing!!!!!!!!
I use my blog as a way of healing as well. I really am liking your post.
That’s good 🙂
I am so sorry to hear about your son. Parents aren’t meant to bury their children. My heart goes out to you.
Thank you. Yes that is not how it is supposed to be and Thanks God I don’t know how I survive every parents worst nightmare 🙂
Beautiful, A journal and/or diary is great place to seek solace and comfort. I am sorry to hear about your son.
Thank you:)
What a perfect post! My mom died last year, and I have a specific grief journal I use to write to her or just put down my darker thoughts. It’s so important to have a place to put things, to compartmentalize a bit so that you can move on in your day and come back to it later. Thanks for sharing!
You’re welcome! I was able to published a book writing to my son a few days after he passed away. I never really thought it will turn out that way 🙂
A beautiful post and I do not know where I would be today without my journal. It has helped me to survive downsizing, divorce and death of loved ones. I can’t wait to read your book. Please share details when available and keep writing! Hugs !
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Wow! I didn’t know that writing can help ourselves, glad that I started to writing on blog, though mine’s still a practice blog. Are there any tips to improve the frequency of writing? I’m still struggling to consistently write something to help with my personal problems. Thanks!
Yes writing can help ourselves as I have seen in so many people. We all started with practicing on this blogging world. The thing I do is to keep writing everyday on my journal and make a commitment, I will be sending you a link later where you can see how it it is being done by others. cheers 🙂
check this out and read the comments also
https://therunningllama.com/2016/06/29/blogging-practices/comment-page-1/#comment-28
and also this one https://makeitultrapsychology.wordpress.com/2016/06/29/my-personal-blogging-rules/
read the comments of people
Thanks! It’s very helpful for me and my girlfriend. I hope I can commit to writing and help myself.
Sure you can!
sometimes it feels like their are no other answers or options and no one to listen to you and no one to talk to, and i noticed that when i was not writing and not blogging or reading others writing, i felt lonely because there is only so much my friends and family and husband want to listen to me. anyway, what i am trying to say is that writing is an outlet for you and everything that you think all of the time and sometimes it is better to have people yu dont even know read it and comment and it helps you cope.
keep writing.
Yes you are so very true. Keep writing also 🙂
Your strength and perseverance is inspiring. Writing is a wonderful way to process. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you 🙂
Hi, I wrote my first post but I don’t know how to actually post it. It appears in the drafts. Could you please help me figure out if it has reached you or how to get it posted.
Hi! I visited your site but I found out that your site can’t be reach. I am so sorry but I have no idea what happen.
insightful article. yes, writing can absolutely help vent out all those frustrations instead of immediately confronting the person. thank you for the lesson. will read your other articles as well. 🙂
Thank you 🙂
I write a diary too, and in the moments when I most need someone to talk to, it’s always been there and writing it out has made me a better person too because once I’ve written it out and if I happen to read it again (which I do a lot of times) I realize how ugly some of my thoughts are or how badly I reacted to a situation or how I could have done better to handle someone. And I consciously make an effort to not repeat what I felt was wrong. A diary plays such an Essential role in the lives of whose who write it.
Thank you for giving me an opportunity to share what my diary means to me ^_^
Thank you too. It’s good to know we have something in common. By the way you can read where my journal leads me here
https://www.wattpad.com/216667231-the-booze-stole-my-son-don%27t-let-it-steal-yours
Have a great day 🙂
Aui
Thanks to sharing the link. I will surely make my way there soon.
Meanwhile if you have a moment, I’d love to know what you think of my blog. Cheers and have a lovely day. ^_^
Sure:)
I visited your site and I notice there is no reply button on your Want to collaborate page, also I was advice by a blogger to remove the uncategorized (category) because they doesn’t look good. I also learned from Millionaires Digest to include pictures on post. Another blogger introduce mo to pixabay.com where I can get pictures aside from google image (the only one I know). I hope this things help. I keep visiting sites with big followers to learn also. I’m relatively new in blogging so there’s so much to learn 🙂
Aui
It is indeed sweet of you to have taken the time to comment and advice me for the better. Thank you so much! I shall try to implement as much as I can. Cheers!
Could relate well. Do write more 🙂
Thanks 🙂
I believe I had commented on your article sometime back. My present comment was directed at Aishwaraya. 😀
Hey check this too humandesire4.wordpress.com
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I use painting in a very similar concept to my journal.
That’s good to know. Thanks for dropping by 🙂
Your honesty and is beautiful and inspiring. Thanks for sharing your story ?
I am happy to hear that. Thank you 🙂
Its really nice post! Ur journal is like how were you yesterday!
Thank you! Yes it is 🙂
Your story is an important one. Journals are fantastic avenues for self-expression. I’m also sorry for your loss but glad you could turn tragedy into triumph of some sort.
Thank you 🙂
I suppose i should get a journal to.I love the simplicity of your pieces and your story is very touching.
Thank you! I am so happy to know that 🙂
Yes, get yourself a journal. It will give you so much more than you could ever imagine!
Thanks for being open about your situation. It really takes certain courage to openly share your situation to others. I know your words are going to encourage someone out there. Glad that i stumbled upon this piece.
Nevertheless as a passerby, I am glad that you found your healing:) Stay well!
Thank you 🙂
This was a very touching story and one to remember. I’m sorry for your loss. My daughter is 21 months and I can’t imagine outliving her. It’s a tragedy what you had to experience and I can only hope that it made you stronger, as clichéd as that sounds. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. 🙂
Thank you. Losing my son breaks my heart into million pieces and mending it made me really stronger. Having people read my works helps me in so many ways. Thank you also for your kind words. They mean a lot to me 🙂
I can’t imagine…I can’t…It hurts just thinking about it. I’d love to give you a virtual hug! 🙂
Yah, I know what you mean. Hugs back to you and thank you really 🙂
What I love about blogging is that, unlike when I write news articles, I write what I like and what I go through. This way I grow emotionally.
Good to know about that. Thanks for dropping by 🙂
Even I’m into writing journals. It gives me a space to express my situations and vent out my frustration, happiness and all the emotions one feels. I am really sorry for your loss but you inspire us by being brave.. You really are a brave person. God bless you and keep it up..
Thank you so much for your kind words. They mean a lot 🙂
WElcome.. All the best ..
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So sorry for your loss! I can’t imagine how hard that must have been for you! I’m glad you were able to find comfort thru writing. Your post was very genuine I really enjoyed it!
Thank you so much for the kind compliment 🙂
I remembered my dear friend who keeps a diary, and I think that saves her too every time she has to deal with things that trigger her depression. This is such a wonderful read. I find the part when you got no one to open up to when you were still young relatable because, as for an only child like me, I also keep a diary. 🙂
That’s a good thing to know. Thanks for dropping by and keep writing on your diary 🙂
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This is really educating.
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