As soon as the southwest monsoon flows over the air there was an occurrence of a vague loneliness I cannot explain. The moisture-laden wind carries with it a painful sensation I do not even want to go back to. The climax of the summer heat is almost over and the season was telling me June is coming. I wish I have the power to remove it from the calendar of time because it brings with it the memories of the most unbearable agony of losing my son. And I’m scared.
I’m scared because they say the more it last the more it hurts. It’s almost three years now. And I am not sure if I am done with the grieving process or if I can get through with it. The gradual change of atmosphere clouded my emotions with sorrow and there was a screaming voice inside making me lost in the air. In my desperate search to meet the sunshine along the way here’s what I found out:
1. Reach out
Exposing the imaginary dragons to someone we trust lost its power over us. It allows us to show our authentic self and by doing so we stop wasting our energy to something that will destroy us in the long run. I was so absorb with myself after losing my son until I hear a women sharing how she lost two of her siblings a year after losing her husband. Suddenly my troubles seem like a grain.
2. Shield ourselves and put up defenses
In our weakest moment we may find strength from practical and Godly advice. Sometimes it could be from the people closest to us or from those who inspire us. Today we almost have everything at our disposal where to search for inspirations to fortify us.
3. Strive to be happy
It is our primary duty in life. Happiness is something we work out and it does not come naturally. According to Bertrand Russell on his book The Conquest of Happiness published in 1930, “Happiness is not, except in very rare cases, something that drops into the mouth, like a ripe fruit….Happiness must be, for most men and women, an achievement rather than a gift of the gods, and in this achievement, effort both inward and outward, must play a great part.”
4. Count your blessings
Researchers found out that counting our blessings big or small made our emotions more positive and increase our ability to handle life’s disappointments.
Reaching out is a major one that many of us fail to do. Thanks for this reminder:)
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I’m not sure you can get over a loss like that (I lost my father when I was 9), but it does get easier. My step-dad is getting older and I’m having a strangely difficult time with it because I don’t know how I can lose another dad. I know it isn’t the same, but striving to move on is important. Blessed be.
Don’t know what to tell you. But thinking of people we care the most leaving us is mind boggling. The death of my son brought me to the new meaning of death. God bless you 🙂
Aui
And you as well, a terrible tragedy I can’t imagine
You might want to read how I get through it on my book here https://www.wattpad.com/myworks/62062173-the-booze-stole-my-son-dont-let-it-steal-yours
I hope you will find peace from that.
Thanks
Aui
Amen
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This is real beautifully written and wonderful advice. I’ve not suffered a loss such as this, but I can only imagine reaching out to others with the same experiences would help provide a little mending. So, too, might finding a cause close to your heart to work with…like working with children. Only one idea. I’m sure they’re are many. Thank you for laying your heart out in this post.
Thank you so much 🙂
Aui
Counting our blessings indeed uplift us through hardest 🙂 🙂 🙂
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My life seems to go better when I am grateful for what I have!
Thank you for this!
The pleasure is mine 🙂
Inspiring I like it??
Thanks:)
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I really enjoyed reading this, thank you
Happy to hear that! Happy New Year 🙂
Thank you Aui V. You have helped me. I cannot know of the pain from the loss of a child. I have been told there is nothing so devastating. However, your words have helped my heart understand my mom.
Thank you! Happy New Year 🙂
I found this to be very encouraging. Thank you. ?
I’m happy to hear that 🙂
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You state your thoughts clear and your writing adds the rhythm.
Loved it 🙂
Thnaks
My pleasure
Great post! Very useful and to the point
Thanks!
I agree with this, especially that part about “strive to be happy”. Happiness is everything.
Thanks 🙂
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Inspired ?
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Juicy articled loved it… specialy what you have written in point 3.
Thank you. It is good to hear that 🙂
An expressive and amazing post! Just loved it.
“Fame plays a double Game.”
To know more, read my poem on “Fame” at
https://akashsingh2017.wordpress.com/2017/05/22/fame/
I hope you will like it ?
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Do check my poem 🙂
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Lovely!
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