How to Move Ahead After Losing a Child

How to Move Ahead After Losing a Child

Written by Millionaire’s Digest Staff Member: Aui V.

Founder & Owner of: Aui’s Den

Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Editor and Author of The Booze Stole My Son: Don’t Let It Steal Yours

1. Allow yourself to cry as much as you can, as often as you want and every time you feel like doing so.

Don’t hold back. Tears connect our shattered soul to the source of strength we never knew where. In the early days after losing a child the emotional task is overwhelming. Scream if you want, punch bag, throw pillows. Do anything physical except when to do so would hurt someone including yourself!

2. Find ways to express your emotions.

Talk about your feelings and thoughts. Write about it. I’ve seen mothers receiving a tremendous amount of peace after connecting with the child they loss by writing to them. They were able to adjust to their new norms with grace and compassion in a relatively short period of time.

3. Continue what you are doing before you lose your child.

When impossible to do so, find new things to engage with no matter how difficult. You will stumble and fall but keep trying. There are times you wouldn’t want to get out of your bed and wish everything is over only to face the fact that it is not. It’s alright but try getting up again moment by moment, one small step at a time. Doing something shifts the focus out of the devastation you are going through. Many times by trying to get out and do something for others the bereaved find a new sense of mission and a  new way of living.

4. Connect with people who are going through the same.

Read and listen to their stories. You will realize you are not alone. You will find hope and better ways of dealing with yourself. You will meet new friends connecting to you on the deepest level even without seeing them personally.

5. Meditate and give yourself ample of time.

Gradually you will realize that you did not really lose your child after all. Nothing really dies. When we leave this earth, our body goes back to the element where it came from transforming into a new form of being. The hurt and the pain we cause with each other eventually stop because those feelings were only possible on the earthly existence. Love is the only thing that will remain because only love is eternal.

Read here: The Booze Stole My Son

Article Credits: Aui V.

Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Editor

39 thoughts on “How to Move Ahead After Losing a Child”

  1. And once you are spent and life has begun to settle you find a new way forward. The world will be the same but you will be a different you with a different outlook not worse or better.
    And you will continue to breathe.

  2. I am in a place where I need hope that life goes on. 5 weeks ago today I lost my 4 year old stepdaughter Kiyana Mcneal. She was mauled by an adult doberman within an hour of purchasing the dog. The visions of what she had to of went through haunt me and her dad. There is so much heartache, disappointment anger and hopelessness that consumes us but we are trying to celebrate the times we had with her. I was her stepmom but she was my world. It is such a dark place right now. We know how blessed we were having her in our life but emptiness without her is unbearable. Your message provides so me hope that we will see the sunshine again. I am so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing. I started a blog as well to express my feeling and maybe some day my story will touch another going through this awful pain.

    1. I wish there are easy words to tell you but I found none. When I was thinking of how my son’s motorcycle accident happen I felt like screaming inside. Writing helps me so much during the early days after losing my son even until now. Please continue to find hope and know that your little girl is now in the loving hands of God where there will be no pain anymore. You might also find hope in the book I have written after losing my son. This book leads me to be at peace with death. Here is the link where you can read it for free.

  3. I know first hand how hard it is to lose a child. My niece died when she was three years old from and infection she picked up from the hospital. My sister and niece have never been the same since. No one should ever have to go through the drama of losing a child.

  4. Its really amazing to read thanks for writing it mam and sharing with us because in recently I have loses my younger brother and I can experience the pain and sorrow of the family especially my mom I always try to convience her these all things and today also I read this to mom and try to convience her. Hope so it will work but thanks to you. ???

    1. My condolences to you and your family for losing our brother. I hope there are easy words to say but there is none, the pain is real.But rest assured it will pass. hugs to you and your mom

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