Written by Millionaire’s Digest Team Member: Noelle L. Reagan
Founder& Owner of: Made Up by Reagan
Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor, Successful Living and Writing Writer
It’s been said that we become a sum of the five people we spend most of our time with.
Think about that for a moment…
Who are your five people? Are you horrified at the very thought? Are you shaking your head in denial? Or perhaps you’re proud and comfortable with those that make up your “sum?”
Either way, it puts a lot of weight in the friendships that we choose to consume our free-time hours.
(The titles below are only allegorical examples, for the sake of expressing a type of person, rather than an actual profession/ person as cited)
1. The CHEERLEADER
What they provide: enthusiasm, hope, optimism
When you need them: in those moments we all have, where, no matter how hard you try, you cannot muster up optimism or enthusiasm when that’s exactly what you need to get though whatever you’re facing at that particular moment in life.
2. The COACH
What they provide: Occasional tough love, encouragement, a nudge in the right direction, a game plan/ strategy, a reminder that life can sometimes boil down to being a team sport.
When you need them: When you need someone to call an ace an ace and light the fire under your seat, or when you need a game plan, guidance or a team player’s perspective.
3. The INTELLECTUAL
What they provide: A smart approach, when you have one chance to make the right choice – and you’re not quite sure what that is, or when you want to be around someone who brings out the smartest, most articulate version of you.
When you need them: When making big, important decisions, or choices regarding your career, or anything else of importance.
4. The REALIST
What they provide: Honesty and Truthfulness
When you need them: Anytime you need to hear the honest truth, even of if its hard to hear, or when you feel like your too close to the eye of the storm to make a decision that’s not of clouded judgment.
5. The ROMANTIC
What they provide: Hope for happy endings and endless love, and for any matters of the heart where it’s best seen with warmth and love.
When you need them: All decisions rendered that call for thinking with one’s heart and not just one’s head.
So taking into consideration the five general types of people we could all benefit from – and simply from their presence alone, think a bit about the effect others have on you, both subconscious and conscious. After pondering this, odds are, you’ll agree there is power in people. Especially those we designate as “our people.”
We all know someone who brings out a snobbishness, lazy, dull, worst possible version of ourselves. You know– that person that you leave feeling exhausted, short fused and generally bad, especially as it relates to self-esteem and self-image.
Conversely, we all know someone who brings out the best version of ourselves – that person that when you’re speaking to them, you literally use bigger words without thinking about it. They unintentionally bring out the best you. When you leave them, you find yourself wanting more time together, you’re happy and energized.
So pick your five closest comrades carefully. And forget obligation. You have one shot at life. If you don’t do what’s best for yourself, it’s a sure thing, no one else will either. This is not a dress rehearsal or a dry run. This is real, and time passes fast.
So remember, you are the sum of the five people closest to you. Do you add up to what you want to be your metaphorical total? If not, it’s time to do some considering, cutting, calculating and contemplating.
Article Credits: Noelle L. Reagan
Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor
Thanks, *Coach! 😀
Awe! You’re quite welcome. That’s a very sweet thing to say!
Noelle Reagan
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Great advice!
Thanks so much. That means the world to me to hear things like that.
On another note, I should’ve added that one person can often fill more than one role!
I guess I need all five of them right now! Thanks for sharing this post.
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I wish you the best of luck! I bet you will be surrounded by all five if that’s what you seek. For me, two people fill all the five roles. And that works for me! Thanks for your kind words. I’m now following you too!
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Thanks so much! That means a lot to me. And the same to you!
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Great post
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Very insightful message, thank you for sharing Reagan! ?
Yep, the realest friends are the realists, because they are real 😉
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Loved reading this!
Thankyou
Good points. Who we hang out with usually conforms us towards them. Keeping our individuality is important.
Amazing article! I think cheerleader and coach are my favourite of them all!
Wow! That really helped, I am in middle of nowhere in my life and now I need to start getting it right again. Thanks a lot, your posts inspire me a lot.
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i guess it’s time to do some considering, cutting, calculating and contemplating.
Thank you!
Thanks! I’m a realist I think ??
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Great post, makes me wonder if I need to do some cutting and calculating of my own.
I agree, and I have all five in my life!…..Great Read!
I have all five in my life but I think it’s great to have faith in ourselves and know that we can be that to ourselves as well!
Such a wonderful analysis! Interesting thing is, people don’t stay same or don’t belong to the same category. My best friend from school (Junior, Senior and High School) always used to bring out the best of me and I always felt so good talking to her, we used to share everything, we are still connected, still good friends, but for last few years after talking to her I feel low self esteemed, down and exhausted. I have no idea why it happened and what changed our friendship. I feel bad sometimes, but I understand people change, and that’s okay.
Coincidentally, I’m starting up a site for coaching… A unique twist on a forum. There’s a link to it from my blog.
Argh, hit post a little early! I liked the article too. Minor semantics, I always heard the average of five instead of the sum. But it’s about the same in the end /#
Great post!
Great writing
Love this post, great content!
All great but Appreciate the Coach and the realist the most!
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We also need to be these five things and think like these five peoples for ourself…cause people always leave and when your cheerleader decides to leave you…you have got to be your an cheerleader…its great to have such people around you….but we should also learn to be self dependent.
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I am missin the coach!! And it is killing my entire lifestyle.
5friends —!! Yes – excellent ideas 🙂