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Write Where It Hurts

Write Where It Hurts

Written by Millionaire’s Digest Staff Member: Aui V.

Founder & Owner of: Aui’s Den

Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Editor and Author of The Booze Stole My Son: Don’t Let It Steal Yours


When I lost my son three years ago, the excruciating agony shooting through my body was the worst I’ve ever known.  It was hurting like hell. No amount of human power could ease the unbearable pain I had gone through. I almost lost all the capability to feel and to think. The writing was the only task I can manage that does not require anything I can’t. I’ve known it since young. Writing when life was difficult had been my way of life and an automatic thing for me.

I write to him every day on my journal telling him everything I would like to as if he was talking to me as well. It made me feel connected to him again. It doesn’t matter if it is an illusion I created for myself because it provided me the deepest desire of my heart to have him around alive.

I was able to find a way out through writing when I was losing myself in sorrow. I cried with my pen on my journal.  Those tears seem washing every bit of the grief I had, letting me see things impossible to see when clouded with emotions. Writing made me aware of what’s going on. It also helps me break free from the endless mental torture I was going through. It organizes my thoughts and lets me find meaning out of the experience.

It gives me hope and courage to move on no matter how lumpy I was then. The writing helps me gain strength on my feelings of powerlessness over my terrifying situations. It gives me a safe place that allows me to wrestle and have my power back.

Over the time I realized how it made me bear the pain with grace. People may repress and pushed painful experiences from consciousness into the unconscious which can be the trap in a toxic pattern.  In writing we find better ways of coping which can also lead us to our own healing process.

I often hear people saying they do not know what to write. Here is a big shout to “Start with where it hurts,” it may lead you to something you never knew like the way it did to me.

You might want to check where writing where it hurts leads me here.


Article Credits: Aui V.

Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Editor

71 thoughts on “Write Where It Hurts”

  1. I agree wholeheartedly with this, that writing can help to release the pain! I hate it when people tell me that I need to release my emotions in a more physical way as apparently people believe that writing only helps us to suppress our pain. I disagree with this. Writing helps me let go of the things that I cannot say aloud and has been a great therapeutic way for me to heal. I hope you continue to write to release the pain.

  2. I find most often writing is intensive and cathartic. Some emotions are best dealt with via physical action, like anger. Nothing digs a better hole or chops better wood than anger. However I find those emotions that leave you raw, silent and bleeding are best triaged by writing. Writing gives you space. Space to feel, space to deal. Space to heal.

    1. Yes, they are so very true! I used to combine writing and physical movement even a ten minute dance step when the emotions and the distortions within are more than crazy! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

  3. Im so sorry about your son, thank you for this post! Its always scary to think about writing about the things that hurt us the most but, sometimes our greatest work comes out of the pain and the greatest healing as well. Writing I think, allows us to have a way to get out our thoughts without having to be public about them.

  4. you’re just soo right. we don’t actually need to wait to write but actually start to write. love your storytelling lines. you sure have got a way with words. thanks for lifting my spirits.
    much love, George.

  5. Thank you for the post. I find that so far the writing that more people ‘like’ on my blog is the writing that was gut-wrenchingly painful and difficult to get out. But worth it in the end. Start where it hurts! Couldn’t agree more.

  6. I’m so sorry for your loss. This post brought tears to my eyes, as I remembered all the times that I sat with a journal and wet pages to write away my pain. It’s truly therapeutic, natural and relieving. So grateful for the gift of words and writing. Thanks for sharing this with us <3

      1. I can only imagine the pain you feel. Both crying and writing are healing in their own ways. I’m so moved that you write letters to your son, it’s such a beautiful thing to do. I’m sure you’re baby boy appreciates every word. Sending you many hugs <3

  7. Thank you for sharing. It’s important to let people know they are not alone in these kind of experiences. I think its a great idea to journal. Very good way to get out those things you maybe can’t say out loud.

  8. Writing is definitely therapeutic! I cannot imagine the grief in your heart when you lost your son but I am glad you found a way to let it out and today are able to talk about it like a chapter of your life you wish didn’t exist but are not scared to revisit anyway! It takes so much strength to do that!

  9. I felt this. This was hard to read because of the emotions I felt but it was healing and encouraging. You definitely have a gift and I hope that you are able to heal and find peace. Peace and love to you.

  10. Thank you for writing this post. There is no greater pain than loss of a child. I’m sorry to hear it. I hope your writing, as brilliant and touching it is, help you find new path for peace in life. Please believe that there is more to all of our existence than body and one may never know how loved ones come back to them. Thank you once again. Keep writing!

  11. who suffered a lot actually God Wanted to make them something very spacial.I lost My Dad when i was 20 years. Actually released what is the actual life. what is the value of money , what are friends. That time I was too hurt…But Time always support to handle.

  12. I am sorry for your loss. Pain in your heart can be a terrible thing.
    I have felt that too. Last year. But it was not a human. It may sound silly to others. It was my pet. Believe it or not, they too are ” family” and can be so close to a person.
    Mine was stolen. He was my service dog. It took me a little over a week to find him. Yet, it turned my world upside down. I have had so many things yanked away from me in my life, it isn’t funny.
    I have learned a few valuable lessons from it.

    1. Thank you. I understand that feeling also of losing a pet like a family. I have many friends who felt that way which I thought funny before, until I realized how we can be attached to a pet when we got one.

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  14. Well done on using writing as a cathartic tool. I wrote about miscarriage (a lot later) with some changes to the prose nonfiction as to how it could have been better dealt with. I’m glad that you also found hope.

  15. The very title struck me deep (and the feeling of being stricken from the start became more and more meaningful towards the end of the article). I remembered the blog entry (normalseas.wordpress.com) my friend and I submitted during a school competition, and we wrote with all our heart and soul—pouring every sadness as well as the refuge that we continuously seek to make is feel better. Thanks again for this wonderful read! 🙂

      1. This msg somehow reached half to you ….I wanted to write more…..we all r mortal,yr sufferings r too much…we all have to go oneday….engage yrself more in writing ,find peace this is my only prayer…

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