Why Follow Your Dreams?

Why Follow Your Dreams?

Written by Millionaire’s Digest Team Member: Anthony Cosimini

Founder & Owner of: Mistersherbetlemon

Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor, Successful Living Writer

A Quick Background Story:

Ambitions form in people at a very young age. They often say a lot about what kind of person they may someday become.

A good deal of these ambitions are often well paid, respectable jobs with the most common being things like a doctor, firefighter, police officer, etc… However, when a child or teenager decides that they want to seek a career in the creative arts, they’re rarely provided with the same support from their seniors.

My own experience of the education system was disheartening to say the least. I was actively discouraged to abandon my ambitions as a writer or musician and pursue a career in social work, simply because a 20 question test (which, I might add, provided no questions regarding the creative arts) said I’d be good at it.

We all have someone who we respect the most in life. For me, my father is the one man I respect more than anyone else. He has provided for my family despite receiving a poor education and will be working an eight hour shift during his 75th birthday next week. He has been a fantastic influence on my life but when it comes to pursuing a creative career, his support becomes non-existent.

You see, my father values security over success and success over happiness. He’d rather see me earning money in a dead-end job I hate than have me pursue a job I love. To this day, he still recommends that I apply for a job as a flight attendant so I can see the world despite the fact I have a fear of flying. If I want to see the world I’ll do it in my own damn time! (And I hope you would all be the same way too!)

So What Can You Learn From This Story?

There are those fortunate enough to receive the desired support that can push them ever closer to their dream job but that support can be hard to find. My own personal experiences and the experiences told by my peers gives me the impression that the message told to creative people is usually “grow up and face reality” rather than ” “follow your dreams.” This both worries me and infuriates me to no end.

It worries me that there are so many creative minds having their confidence shaken by those who should support their efforts. It infuriates me to think about how many dreams must have been abandoned because of that mentality which encourages creative minds to aim for goals that are more easily attainable.

If you’ve grown up around this mentality or are currently growing up around it then I implore you to persevere against it. No matter what people around you say, nothing is unattainable so long as you work for it. It doesn’t matter if everyone thinks you’d fare better in another career path, you only have one life to live and it shouldn’t be spent chasing a career you don’t want.

If you’re a creator at heart then you should never settle for less than the freedom to create. Even if you’re not creative, you can do what YOU want so long as you strive for it with everything you’ve got! Whether you want to be a blogger, a writer, a business owner, a sports athlete or anything else, the only person with the right to say you can’t is you.

Committing to these paths is never easy but no matter what people say to dissuade you, all they can use against you are words. Let those words fly over your head and know for yourself that there’s no limit to how far you can go. Prove those words wrong and become exactly what you want to be.

This isn’t just a message for you, this is a message for future creators. If a time comes that you have children of your own and they have similar ambitions, you better be there to tell them it’s possible. But in the meantime, get started on proving it yourself…

Now what’s your story and dream…?

Article Credits: Anthony Cosimini

Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor

(For Book, Writing, Journal Bloggers & More)

61 thoughts on “Why Follow Your Dreams?”

  1. Thank you so much for writing this! Growing up, I really wanted to be a writer and an actor, but no one supported me. I got told I’d never make it as a writer and being a writer isn’t a real job. Now, after many years, I find myself finally writing and loving it! However, the main job that I have now is horrible and I hate it > < I hope people younger than me follow their dreams and not want society tells them.

    1. I know exactly what you mean Akaluv! It’s great to hear that you’re working towards your dream as a writer now. We sometimes have to do jobs we don’t like to get by but don’t ever let that job rule your life when you have a higher goal in mind for the future. 🙂

  2. Thanks. I only discovered writing very recently. Though in my part of the world, there isn’t much of a career to sprout from it, I’m pursuing it with all my heart and keeping my eyes and heart open for any opportunities.

    1. Glad to hear you’re chasing your passion mimi. While there may not be many careers locally, writing is a universal passion and the internet makes it easier than ever for people to notice your work. Keep pursuing your writing career, you’ll find the opportunities you’re searching for.

  3. Well-expressed ! Lifestyle changes have driven people to go behind money, hence the rigid mindset. However, let’s not give into all these crap about “success”.
    Let’s live with the mantra ” Live your dreams”. ? keep writing ?

  4. What an interesting article. I’ve recently written something about quitting my full time job in order to become a writer. I was astonished at people’s reactions to me “living my dream.” I was told to be realistic so many times – however when I had previously told them about my dream to be a writer, people would often tell me to ‘go for it’ as it perhaps seemed unreachable. I think you have to believe in your own ability and do what you love. We only have one life, right :)? https://hopelesshannah.com/

  5. Interesting thoughts, thanks! I especially like what you said, “my father values security over success and success over happiness”. There is value in striving for security. But, isn’t there more value in happiness? That’s the reason we each should define what Success mean to us as individuals, and not what others want for us.

  6. Well said ….i think those are blessed who can identify thier dream n pursue it ….it is truth that many people dnt know what is their dream, where their happiness is. Every person has some special facet , special liking and a corner of happiness one can fill with the things or work they love to , they mean too.
    Most of the times the upbringing of person matters . How you grow ,how you evolve , how you dig out your passion, love or dream does matter.
    There is a real need for every child, youth to identify the dream , follow it .
    Dreams can keep you on right track in your life. With a purpose always keeps away from unwanted circumstances , keep away from lures.
    I will say in short .
    A person without dream is a life wasted. But youth without dreams , a nation wasted!!

  7. THIS. So much. And I remember a stupid test like that, too (it told me I should work in a library because books – nothing about art or writing there either).

    I often wonder where I and other creatives struggling with people telling us we’re wasting our time could have been by now if we’d had the support we needed… but that’s a futile exercise in mental self-mutilation, so here’s to going ahead in spite of the naysayers.

  8. Howdy Anthony,

    This is a very eye-opening message, and I feel similar to you because my family values security over success too.

    Most of my family and friends are great earners of money but they do not have a dream. If they do have a dream, they don’t follow it because they are either working all the time (on the clock for someone else) or they make excuses as to why they can’t pursue the job or role they truly desire.

    At an earlier point in my life (a few months ago), this would frustrate me tremendously – until I realized I am responsible for myself (and we are responsible for our own selves) which means it is my duty to follow my dreams and determine what’s attainable.

    Every day is another chance for me to celebrate being alive and I want to spend it blogging, owning businesses, and connecting with others. Thank you for sharing your story and valuable insight!

  9. Reblogged this on Catherine Vaughan's World and commented:
    My same thoughts…
    == It worries me that there are so many creative minds having their confidence shaken by those who should support their efforts. It infuriates me to think about how many dreams must have been abandoned because of that mentality which encourages creative minds to aim for goals that are more easily attainable. ==

    Word’s cannot describe how much I want my dreams to come true since I myself only have a basic sense for what reality is like! Currently my biggest dream is to become someone in the USA that has made history WHILE having autism. Want to see what my other dreams are? Check out as many of my blog posts as possible to see what they are!

  11. Thank you. Your words were right and spot on. I think your story represents majority of us, your hard working father reminds me of mine. I am new at this wordpress thing, and your post just gave me the confidence I needed.

  12. My dreams are more than one. At age 49 I have a paralegal degree and Technical Business Management Degree from two colleges. I have 20 years in the cosmetology/barber industry which I owned for 6 years. I changed careers in college to Security so as to be able to go to college and work 2nd shift for my convenience. My dream is to attend Law School. My dream is to finally get my Criminal Justice Degree with Forensic Science. Right now I am inquiring at several colleges. I currently cut hair for this to be able to be possible. I dream of owning my own brick home. I dream of writing a book and I dream of living a Christian woman life style and hold bible studies out of my new house. You are such a great inspirational writer no wonder everyone stops to comment here. Bless you my dear friend. I am Jackie Paulson USA IL

  13. This has been an amazingly inspiring read! Perhaps what you can add to your catchphrase is “It’s never too late to start dreaming (again).” Because unfortunately, some of us realize too late and fall into the curse of adulthood way before we fall in love with the idea of dreaming. They too can start having dreams they can follow 🙂

  14. I understand this situation perfectly. My daughter is an actor for Second City Theatre Company in Chicago. My son wants her to find a more secure job. My parents lived through the Depression and two world wars and were all for security. My son is like my father although my dad died when my son was four years old. It must sometimes be in the genes. Good post. 🙂 — Suzanne

    1. You have my deepest respect for supporting your daughter as she pursues her dreams. Striving for security is a natural human instinct but we should always keep looking for the very best in our lives.

      Thank you for your words 🙂

  15. This is very true. Although, my parents swayed me to the kind of job I am now ; I will forever be thankful as it opened door to what I really wanted to do in life. Now 33 I’m doing exactly what I wanted and at thesame time practicing the profession I was told to do so . No regrets . I am glad I listened and I’m fortunate I get to start what I have always wanting to do.

  16. If you think you can then you will.
    There should never be looking back if you don’t feel like.
    Written in a way that nobody can leave without getting motivated. 🙂

  17. That True. I left my job from position of Vice President (PR) in advertising company long time back and Started working as professional photographer from the past of 5-6 years. I learned photography , spent my saving to buy all expensive camera , lens and other accessories, Now i am having my own existence in life and People respect me for this .

    When i left job. Everybody was surprised even in my family also but I never wanted to die as an employee of any xyz company. also i face finance crunches in my life but i never quit.today i am having website getting good business queries on other side i also sell my picture online through exhibition etc

    Today i am happy when working better as an professional photographer . Follow your dream and have a positive hope to convert your dream into reality .

  18. Well said. I can totally relate. My dad has the same mentality with your dad. I know he’s very proud of me but he keeps on pushing me into the “safe zone”. I understand why because he only thinks for my security in the future. However, it makes me think if it’s what I really wanted until I reached the point that I already forgot what I really wanted. I’m 23 turning 24 next year. I can’t contain this kind of feeling inside my heart anymore so I decided to write him a letter on my 24th birthday to let him know how I feel. I don’t know what he’ll say about it but I’d rather see him fet disappointed at me because of the decisions that I’ll make in my life than blame him in the future because of my disappointments in life.

  19. This post is great inspiration for those who have a dream and are fearful to follow their true calling- even if you do not consider yourself an artsy person. People are born with unique talents and gifts at a young age but a lot of the time discouragement or just a lack of support can block dreams from becoming a reality. I can relate to the lack of support from family but my situation was more so a lack of encouraging me to be me and pushing me to try new things. Now that I am older and have taken control of my life I become inspired everyday through other people’s stories -much like the one you shared. Thanks for this post. -B.O.S.I

  20. I love this! My parents are always telling me how crazy and ridiculous my dreams are, and to be more “practical”. I.HATE.THAT.WORD. I can’t wait to one day prove everyone wrong, because I followed my dreams and they didn’t, and that no dream is too big. Like you mentioned, the only person who will ever know your worth is yourself. Thank you for reminding me of this <3 *Followed*

  21. This is so motivating, I want to be a writer, I do write, but as a writer you have so many people telling you its a dead end. this is pure motivation. Thank you

  22. I’m a teacher who wants to be an upcycler, a blogger, a writer and/or a translator for a living. So far I’ve received little support from loved ones, since I have a civil servant job (who pays me too little and stresses me too much), which is something I was willing to achieve because my parents have followed this path before, until I realized I should be benefitting from a creative profession. Thank you for your kind words. It’s so good that you’ve followed your dream.

      1. We can, Robert. I’m thinking of doing an online free course on psychopedagogy, so I can get a sense of the field. I was recommended that and thought it was a good ideia because sometimes I have know idea of how to help my students who have learning disabilities. I just lack the knowledge and end up not getting anywhere. Do you go through that as well?

        1. I thank God for you Renata,
          I go through that a lot of times.
          Do some search Renata.
          If you get some head way am here waiting for for you to share with me.if I do I’ll show you too.

  23. “Let those words fly over your head and know for yourself that there’s no limit to how far you can go.”

    That’s damn right, I’m waiting for my “Eureka Moment” and do what I really want. Dead-end job are all around in Brazil, so I want to row against the tide.

    Thanks for the idea, God bless you mate. 🙂

  24. I absolutely love this post. I came across this at the perfect time. I’m in the process of getting ready for university and my high school graduation. My hope is to major in Global Studies – but I don’t have any support from my father at all. He believes in “impressing others” by majoring in the STEM fields. Despite this, I hope to pursue my dream. It’s been tough with loads of pressure and stress. I don’t even know if what I’m doing is right. But I’m just going with it. Hopefully everything will fall into place. Thank you for this amazing post!

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