PMS, Anyone? (3 min read)

Written by Millionaire’s Digest Team Member: Giovanna L.

Founder & Owner of: Fit & Fabolous

Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor, Family & Life and Successful Living Writer


Well, what can I say, it’s that time of the month again for me and my “raging bull” (that’s how I call it) is back full force. I feel less than great, and before I know it, I am back on that all too familiar emotional roller coaster ride, switching back and forth between feelings of wanting to cry all day and wanting to murder everyone in sight (well, not really…or yes actually!).

My fellow sisters out there, you feel me, right?
For those of you who don’t know what I am talking about – bless you. It’s called premenstrual syndrome (PMS) and typically kicks in about a week before your period, turning you into the she-devil.

While not every woman goes through it, most of us do and yet hardly anybody talks about it. It’s a shame because I feel we could support each other more as women, by talking openly about the subject, instead of keeping it behind closed doors. I sometimes feel like I am the only woman experiencing this every month (although, realistically speaking I know there are others out there just like me).

The symptoms differ largely from woman to woman and may include mood swings, cramps, bloating, water retention, food cravings, low energy – just to name a few. Contrary to what some might believe, this is not just a “thing” women imagine each month, it’s a hormonal change happening in our bodies – in our brains – which cause these symptoms.

Going through this on your own is bad enough, but having to endure a clueless partner in the process is more than most of us can handle during these critical days, am I, right? Come to think of it, surviving that time of the month probably applies more to the man in your life than yourself, really. I know this to be true for my relationship.

I am a soft-spoken, kindhearted person by nature and my husband actually fell for that loving, sweet side of me. Imagine his terror when he experienced my “raging bull” for the first time, a couple of months into our relationship. Poor soul didn’t know what hit him: I can go from angel to beast in a matter of seconds over something as trivial as not finding my house keys, or him just simply “standing in my way” when I want to go to the kitchen to fetch a glass of water.

Unfortunately, according to my doctor this is something I simply have to deal with, and since I don’t want to take any mood medication, I guess I am stuck with this raging bull of mine until I hit menopause – and who knows what wonderful surprises mother nature will have in store for me then (I can hardly wait…Not!). Anyway, I have to accept this about myself (after all, what can I do?) and on good days, my husband and I even lovingly joke about my “raging bull” sound asleep on the days when I am not PMSing.

I have yet to find the cure or some sort of remedy to this unbearable condition. Sure, exercising and sleeping helps up to a certain point – but let’s face it, it’s not like I can sleep and hit the gym all day long. What about when I am at work or at home with my husband?

When dealing with PMS in a relationship, I find that the best way is not to dramatize the situation. I accept it as the temporary condition that it is, in which I may be “out of order” for a couple of days and, which will pass soon enough. It may have taken us a couple of attempts but with the years (yes, sadly, that’s how long it took us) my husband and I have learned to manage the situation by not taking it too seriously in the first place.

My husband has become a pro in anticipating the critical days and knowing exactly when I am PMSing even before I do. That gives him sufficient time to brace himself, to possibly retreat and to give me some space. Not that he abandons me completely, but he’ll go out with his friends more on those days, which is just as good for me. Giving each other space is important as we’d only end up in each others hair, as I am capable of picking a fight over anything at any given moment.

Not taking everything that I say and do during those days too seriously is another coping strategy. Sometimes we even laugh about my “temporary insanity”. It may sound like a cliché, but laughing it off always helps to lighten things up.

Another thing that I find helps me a great deal, is when my husband hugs me. It instantly calms me down. However, I’ll also admit that hugging a person who is constantly lashing out at everything and everyone in sight can be a bit of a challenge. Fortunately, my husband has learned to look beyond the aggressive behavior and is always willing to hug me, no matter what. I honestly don’t know how he does it, without feeling the need to put on a full body armor first, but he just does and it works wonders every time.

I am curious to know; how do you cope with your PMS? What are your experiences on what helps, especially with regards to mood swings of all kinds? Any special remedies or advice you are able to share on this is greatly appreciated.

Love xxx
Giovi


Article Credits: Giovanna L.

Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor

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19 thoughts on “PMS, Anyone? (3 min read)”

  1. Aside from the crazy food cravings and wanting to eat everything in sight, having a “pyjamas evening” I’ve found helps a treat. Just having an evening/evenings where I’m doing exactly what I want to like curling up in bed in my pyjamas with a cup of tea, chocolate, a good book/DVD, YouTube etc. Hot water bottle works a treat for me when the cramps are near unbearable. Or running a relaxing bath with a scented candle and/or bath bomb (LUSH bath bombs ftw!) gives me an opportunity just to clear my head and works wonders for me when I feel crappy!
    Very insightful article!

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  2. PMS is always the worst time of the month for me. The only reason I’ve not murdered someone yet is because my bestie – the most amazing guy in the planet- is always around to make it bearable, he does everything from giving me feet rubs to tummy massages, breakfast in bed, full control of the TV remote and no chores for me throughout the day. Now that I think of it, PMS may actually be a blessing in disguise. Hmmm.

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  3. Well, well. Am I a stranger here? No, I don’t think so. I’ve learnt not to be as clueless and uncaringly disinterested as many of my pals are. Some education on these issues seem to have done the trick for me. Great, insightful post. Well done.

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  4. Funny how your doctor didn’t help one bit and just dismissed you. PMS problems have become so prevalent that they seem normal nowadays but 50 years ago was strange to feel the kind of pain or mood swings today’s women experience. A great contributor to this change is environmental toxicity, we rarely eat as healthy as 50 years ago even if we are determined to do so. Most of the things we use daily are a source of toxicity and although they toxify us in small amounts after 10 years the pollution can be too much. That’s when these kind of symptoms appear and are more evident when the body needs to detoxify and needs to produce more hormones. The toxification is so gradual that women think they’ve been always like that, like it’s in their personality but the solution is to do an oral chelation, a safe, easy and natural therapy to help the body get rid of what it doesn’t belong there. It only requires perseverance and patience as it isn’t a matter of a couple of days to get rid of decades of toxic buildup. I wrote an article about this therapy some time ago that I hope you find useful. There’s another on anxiety and stress management that shares herbs and breathing techniques to help deal with these symptoms short-term. Take care Giovanna I’ll be sure to check your new site, I have to admit I’m a bit of a health nut. 😀

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    1. This is very interesting info and makes perfect sense. Honestly, thanks so much for this! I will definitely read your articles…can I find them on your blog? (silly question, I’ll just go have a look :)).

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    Love xxx
    Giovi

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  6. Its a time where you should practice mindful behaviour to the best of your ability. As our impulsiveness usually takes over because of our emotions. When you feel anger coming on, walk away from the situation. When you feel grumpy, keep quiet and talk less, therefore preventing raging outbursts from taking place.

    As for overall health, I’m a person who works out 3 days a week and maintains a healthy diet. However during this one week every month, I listen to my body completly. I allow myself to eat what I crave, whether it’s chocolate or coffee, or anything else. I rest instead of exercise, if I feel exhausted. After my pms ends, I switch back to my normal healthy routine. Just be gentle to yourself and your body during this phase as all the hormone fluctuations drive your mind and body a little mad! So treat it with empathy. That’s how I manage! 🙂

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  7. This actually affects me as well. You are not alone.I agree, women should be more open about this. I never heard about the coffee thing, but maannn I believe I would be worse without it :P. For the most part I feel this emotional roller coaster is out of our control, all we can do is roll with the punches…. And laugh, laughter heals the soul. 🙂

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  8. Thanks for sharing 🙂 sounds silly but when I know I’m going to be irritable I make sure that I take a nicer lunch, with all my favourites, into work as a midday “treat” to look forward to. I’ve also heard that staying away from caffeine can help, but I haven’t tried it because I couldn’t go without my mornjng coffee!

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