Written by Millionaire’s Digest Staff Member: Nina Medina
Founder & Owner of: The Happy Life 101
Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Author, Successful Living Writer
When we have a problem and feel as though our life is falling apart, our tendency is to “escape” from the miserable state that we’re at- and most often than not, we resolve to the quick fixes that are also self-destructive at some point: We drink. We party like hell in the company of people who more or less do not care about what’s going on with your life. We take drugs to forget or have sex with strangers. But guess what– the next day, YOUR PROBLEM IS STILL THERE because these quick fix are not really the solutions but a temporary escape from your reality.
Just recently, I was able to listen attentively to Jason Mraz’ song “Three Things” and I thought, Wow! This is exactly how we should deal with the downsides in our lives.
“Number one, I cry my eyes out and dry up my heart.”
Yes, crying is a cathartic release. It purges us of our massive feeling of loneliness. I personally believe that it is important to first empty ourselves with the heartaches before we could move on.
“The second thing I do… say my thank-you’s for each and every moment of my life. I go where I know the love is and let it fill me up inside…”
Not many of us realize but it is also important to contemplate on our lives. We get to analyze what went well and what went wrong…being said that, we should not fix our focus only the to the bad experience and the bad feeling that it brings- but more importantly, what lesson do we get from it.
Surrounding ourselves with the people who cares for us also helps us get through the difficulties of life. If we are alone and we are lonely, we get lonelier because we do not have another person to encourage us and share the burden. Other people may not necessarily provide the solutions, but they give us the emotional support that is much needed. They strengthen us by letting us feel loved and valued.
“The third thing that I do…I pause, I take a breath,…and I let that chapter end.”
We should let go of the failures and hurts in our past, and move on with our lives. Contrary to what others believe in, your past do not determine your future. You future is determined by the choices that you make…and it is your choice to be happy. SO CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY.
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Article Credits: Nina Medina
Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Author
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Wow.. Nice one
AMAZING!
I used to try to run/ignore/sweep-under-the-rug rather than really face the pain.
It didn’t work.
It was when i finally allowed myself to look into the truth of the hurt that I could learn to heal.
Thanks for this!
Good one to show crying is not just weakness, it makes us feel light 🙂
What an amazing post!
Thank you very much! 😊
Put up feelings in so simple nd plain words is just awesome.
Thank you for reading amd I appreciate your comment! ☺
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Love the article.
Thank you! Glad that you love it! ☺
Thank you for sharing! ☺
I was just thinking about loneliness today. I am so busy and surrounded by people but when I slow down I suddenly realise that I’m actually feeling very lonely. I think your point about slowing down and taking a breath is very true. I often don’t let that happen and so I tend to not feel content and at peace often and all I can think of in those moments is that I’m lonely. I wonder whether it’s because I’m missing my own company.
I guess you need to have some time alone and evaluate yourself to identify which area of your life is making you feel lonely…and then you could start working on it! ☺
It works for me too when I cry my eyes out when I have a problem. And I also self reflect because it comes naturally to me at times of stress.
Hi Shami! Yes, crying is a great catharsis for burdensome emotions. It is also wise to self-reflect and analyze our feelings so we know how to deal with it better. Thank you for reading and for commenting.