Are You In Your Twenties and Married? (1 min read)

Written By Millionaire’s Digest Staff Member: Kenyona Copeland

Founder & Owner of: Christian Tea Talk & Podcast Blog

Millionaire’s Digest Team, Author, Books, Successful Living and Writing Writer


If I was twenty-three and never married, I’d say that it’s pretty scary and unnecessary to be married at such an early age. Too bad, because I happen to be one of those in the Twenties & Married club, haha. What is there to lose? That’s the question for those who aren’t married so early.

I’ve heard some friends talk about wanting marriage, but not right now. It’s a little funny, because I always say, “so, you find it more necessary to have a boyfriend rather than a husband?” I ask that because I feel that marriage offers more than something temporary, only depending on how you’re willing to keep your marriage going after three to five years.

Before I give my thoughts and opinions on why I think it’s best to marry as young as your twenties, please tell me what your marriage is like? I want to hear from those who are fighting for their marriages, and those who are married. What’s so easy? What’s so hard? Would you recommend marrying early to other young people?


Article Credits: Kenyona Copeland

Millionaire’s Digest Staff Team, Author

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16 thoughts on “Are You In Your Twenties and Married? (1 min read)”

  1. My husband and I have been together since we were 17, and we married at 24. We do not have kids yet (we both did graduate degrees and moved to a new country, so definitely not yet! I think it has its perks in that you definitely love the person for who they are. We went through high school, college, and the beginning of our lives together and, even though we are so different, we appreciate those differences because we have been through so much together. However, if you marry later you know who you are and what you stand for so you are more likely to get your compatible match (if you wait for that!). There are perks for and against for sure, but it really is just whether you are with the person who you will love and support for the rest of your life.

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  2. I got married last month – I’m 29 and she’s 28 :). But we’re dealing with ‘adult’ life problems and duties for over 10 years already, as we moved in together before even finishing high school. 😀

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  3. I am almost 23 and we are engaged to be married. We have 1 child and I wouldn’t have it any other way. We are young, but we get that much more time being together knowing it’s forever. It’s a wonderful feeling.

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  4. I got married at 20 right after graduating college, my husband was also 20 but hadn’t graduated yet. Eight years later we have 2 kids. My insight….I think people place too much of their readiness to get married on age. What is age? It should define wisdom, it should define maturity but let’s be real, it doesn’t always. We’ve all had that boss or coworker who’s older than us that makes decisions that make you wonder how they got into their position. There are also stories upon stories of people decades into their marriage dealing with the same issues that younger marriages deal with… I think it is more than age. But maturity, our knowledge of who we are and our true understanding of love. Our ability to grow and do things differently. Love is not red hearts, nor is it the feeling of cloud 9 all the time. It’s a decision. A decision we act on by being forgiving, showing mercy, compromising and sometimes just taking an L to be real. Its being quick to squash a feud by being the bigger person, it’s being willing to go out of your way, love is so much more of a verb than a noun that it’s exhausting! Love is looking like an idiot to the world, but being strong in faith and in what you believe God has and purposes for your marriage. Age without wisdom is just a number. It’s wise to overlook an offense, quickly forgive, and be slow to anger, why ? Because it preserves you for the race ahead. It helps you to choose your battles. It literally gives you peace amidst a storm. Being willing isn’t enough. It’s what you DO, outside of your anger, disappointment, unmet expectations that make you marriage worthy. If you become a year older and didn’t use at least half of the last 365 days to learn from your mistakes, develop your character, learn who you are at that stage and define who you want to be, being married at any age won’t keep you from the problems you’ll face

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  5. I got married at 21 and we are coming up on our 2 year anniversary. I love it and would recommend it to anyone who has seriously put time into their relationship. We thought long and hard before making this step, to make sure we were really ready and it has paid off! No kids yet, but we have 3 dogs!

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  6. I am 25 with two under two and married my husband when we were 22. We have lived together for 4 years prior to kids and marriage, but we are so happy and adore our kids. I know we will be faced with challenges, but we take it day by day and so far we are both very happy with the family we have created. Everyone is so different that no relationship is the same, so who I am I to say anything for or against someone else’s choices.

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  7. First thing to make peace with the fact that you are both individuals and will remain individuals all your lives. Learn to embrace that which irritates you about the other person and accept that is the package they bring with in the relationship because they are not your child and you know very little about the insides of their upbringing. Learn to talk WITH each other and not AT each other. Once you know that skill of communication, then you will be able to hear and see if what is said is just innocent say, curious question/statement or accusation? It is okay to notice changes in each other because you both are growing and developing with each experience. Above all GROW in love with each other everyday. What I like the most is something Dr Phil said some years back, “every relationship needs a hero, be one” Happy married life all.

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  8. I have friends who just turned 20 and they are engaged. A lot of people think they are making a mistake. I also know a lot of people who have gotten married at 20 and had kids 5 months after and they become stay at home wives. People say that the earlier your marry, the earlier you get a divorce. I would like to know why it is good to marry early.

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  9. I’m 27,married with two daughters ages 3 and 5mos. It’s challenging, but im happy. My husband and i grow together… That means resolving evrything thru communication, love and humility. I don’t have misgivings because I married a good guy who happens to be my ideal guy,too. Ive also prepared myself early on for the changes.

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  10. Im 28 and going on 5 years of marriage, one kid. I’m happy! Some of my family thinks I married too young but I had my career down, I traveled plenty, partied plenty. What more did I want with single life? Marriage opened a whole new door/chapter in my life & I’m thankful for it.

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  11. Married at 19, divorced at 24. I’m 25 now. No kids.

    For everyone who considers marriage in their twenties, know one thing: You’re still a child and people continue to change well into their twenties and even thirties and forties as they gain more life experience.

    Just because turning 18 makes you and “adult” does not mean you know anything about life yet. And I am not bashing anyone who is married in their twenties or earlier. I was one of those people who took the plunge being madly in love, and I learned more in those five years than I could have ever learned had I not had that experience. This is just a 20/20 hindsight opinion on marriage, though.

    A lot of times it doesn’t work out even though two people love each other, and it is because you’re still growing. Your twenties are “true adulthood” where you have the freedom and the same daily responsibilities as someone twice your age. What you have on your side in your twenties though, is freedom and youth, so I would think twice before committing to marriage too early on in your exploratory years because in many ways marriage hinders you from doing things single people have the luxury of doing like switching jobs until you find the perfect one, working long hours to make as much money as possible, moving wherever you want, etc. If you have kids, that is even more difficult to do.

    Also, I think marriage should happen after your twenties are over. The fact is, older folks often have a way better idea of who they are after they have lived life [as an adult] for many years. That is why I tend to date women who are in their thirties because they have more life experience and know what they want, and who they are. It much easier to weed out the good from the bad too, once you have played the field for awhile.

    Thanks for reading.

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